Self-love is defined as “a regard for one’s own well-being and happiness. ” How
ever, as easy as this sounds to achieve not all of us attain “Self-Love.” We have to learn how to love ourselves first and let me tell you this can be quite a challenge for many of us.
Self -Love is a never-ending process. It is similar to being in a relationship with a significant other. A relationship requires time, effort and dedication to grow and nourish. Self-Love also requires all of these three little factors to grow. When you stop incorporating these three factors in a relationship it starts to fall apart. Self- Love works completely the same.
Today I’m sharing with you 10 ways I’ve been increasing my own Self-Love. These tips have been helping me on my own journey to Self-Love.
- Stop Comparing yourself.
Comparing yourself to others is something that can easily be done. Comparison progresses from jealousy and has become more of a problem due to everything that is put out through social media. Personally, it took me a LONG time to stop comparing myself to others. However, Comparing yourself is something that you should never do. Every individual is different and unique in their own way. We are all on different paths and we are all beautiful in our own way. So even if the people around you seem to be better off, don’t worry your lime light will come. Also, remember that people only show what is acceptable to society. No one is going to show off their hard times. Most of those people who seem to be “better off” also have their own bag of problems going on. We are all human and we are not perfect at all. So, the next time you find yourself thinking ” I wish I had what _________has.” or “I wish I was as pretty as _____________” just remember that they are fighting the same battles with themselves. Focus on bettering yourself instead and the comparing will be unnecessary.
2. Stop caring what others think about you.
It is very easy to get sucked into caring what other people think about you. I’ll admit, just like most people, I have also worried many times on the impressions I’ve made. It is human nature to be curious about what others think about you as an individual. However, this can also be a very negative thing if you are working on your Self-Love. The truth is, not everyone you meet is going to be fond of you. That’s just life. You might think “But why? I’m such a nice person.” Most of the time it is not something you’ve done, it’s simply just them not being able to adjust to your personality. So, don’t sweat it. Focus on yourself, give yourself the love you deserve and do what you love. People are always going to judge what you do no matter what. As long as you are happy with yourself and your life there is no reason why anyone’s negativity should ruin your kingdom.
3. Follow your passions.
People are not always going to agree with your choices nor the path you want to take. However, that does not mean you should give up your dreams. Keep striving for your dreams. Following your passions is a highly important aspect in your life that will help you increase your self-love. Always remember to stay humble and wise through your wins and even your falls. Learn from your experiences, take pride in your own dreams and don’t EVER let anyone tell you that your passions aren’t worth it.
4. Give your body some T.L.C.
Give your self some Tender Loving Care. Take a break from the world and give yourself and your body some time to just BREATH. Maybe Set up a Spa day in your home or even take a nap if you need to. Incorporate better sleeping and eating habits into your day-to-day life. I always love giving myself a “me” day. This day incorporates hot baths, and face masks. I love to feel at peace with myself. I make sure I have a day for myself because life can get a little overwhelming sometimes. Taking care of your body and well-being is essential to live a healthy life. After all, you are stuck with your body forever. Might as well take care of it, right?
5. Surround yourself with good people.
Stop hanging around with negative people. Negative people want to see you fail therefore they will do anything they can to see you fail. Don’t give them that satisfaction. Those people who spend their time looking for the flaws in others, usually spend no time to correct their own. People who want to be a part of your life and want to see you succeed will show it through their actions. Also, it’s always very important to treat others the way that you would like them to treat you. There’s many people who are angry with the world and that is not your fault. If they resolve to treating others unfairly then that is their own choice. Don’t let a bad apple influence the way that you treat others. Instead, surround yourself with people who reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel. Energies are contagious.
6. Work on your self-confidence.
I’m one of those people who had to work hard to gain a self-confidence. Growing up I was very shy and I was just trying to get through life. I always had a hard time making and keeping friendships. I had little confidence in myself and my body language made sure everyone was aware of it. It wasn’t until my last year of high school that I started to feel more confident in my own skin. A lack of confidence can certainly hold you back from a lot of new experiences. Here are some ways you can improve your confidence:
- Fix your body language.
- Say Thank You when someone compliments you.
- Fake it until you make it!
The last one seems a little cliché. However, When you fake confidence you start to believe that you are confident and the people around you will view you as a confident person.
7. Put yourself first.
This might sound a little selfish. In a way it should sound selfish. After all, you are working on yourself! I can joke around all I want but the truth of the matter is women have a tendency of not knowing how to say No. I have been guilty of this many times before in the past. I tend to put others before myself. The worst is when you have already so much on your plate but you don’t want to let other people down. Eventually you end up overwhelmed with all of the things that need to get done. It might not seem like a big deal at first, However, it can quickly turn into stress. Don’t make life so stressful. Learn how to sometimes say NO to others. Always make sure you take care of your own priorities first.
8. Celebrate your wins, no matter how small.
It is amazing if you want to dream big and reach for the stars. You go girl! Just remember to be proud of yourself through the process. Even if you accomplished a very small goal, be proud of it and own it! The small goals are what will eventually lead you to greatness. Don’t put yourself down if your accomplishments aren’t as big as the people around you. We are all on different paths and everyone has different times for their greatness to peak. Don’t ever forget to cherish your accomplishments. It’s all about the journey not the destination.
9. Stop living in the past and focus on the future.
Living in the past can really be a downer. It can drain you and make you think you’re the worst person in the world. However, the past will always stay as the past.
You have the chance to start new every single day. This might sound cliché but one of my favorite quotes is “You can’t start the next chapter if you keep re-reading the last one.” I love this quote because it’s a simple reminder that our own story isn’t over yet. We have so much more to look forward to. However, if we keep re-living the past, we will never get a chance to experience new opportunities and adventures.
10. Know Your Worth.
The older you get, the more experience you have and the wiser you become. With all those experiences come life lessons. Cultivate and make those lessons a very important part of your life. We are all unique human beings and we are all on different paths. Always remember that. Don’t let social media and the people around you make you think other wise. You are worth it!
As women, we should encourage each other to always love ourselves first. What are some ways you increase your Self-Love? Comment down below, I would love to know!