Now, I know what you’re thinking.. selfish and mom in the same sentence?! No way! Of-course, when we think of a mother the word selfish doesn’t cross our minds at all.As a mother myself I can assure you that most of us don’t even know the meaning of selfish.
We automatically have the urge to fulfill the needs of everybody around us instead of ourselves. I actually struggled with not giving myself enough self-love too. It is way to easy to forget about yourself while dealing with all the chaos that motherhood brings upon us.
Simply, I decided that being selfish isn’t always a bad thing. Yes, I said it-SELFISH.
HERE ARE MY DAILY “SELFISH HABITS:
I commit to a couple minutes to myself.
It does not matter if it’s 2 in the morning or 2 in the afternoon (having a newborn comes with a crazy sleep schedule-as you might know) I devote at-least 15 minutes to myself without a phone screen and without a baby screaming in my ear. Those 15 minutes are used for the sole purpose to relax.
I pick my battles
Sometimes, there isn’t enough time for everything especially if you have a brand new baby to look after. This might sound crazy but I give myself a “pass ticket.” The way that I determine this depends on the type of day that I’m having with baby Julius. For example, if baby Julius happens to be very fussy that morning then I choose not to make the bed or not to do the dishes. Instead, I cuddle with my baby boy until I feel like his okay. If things don’t get marked off from my to-do list then it’s no big deal-there’s always the next day.
I have a hobby
The idea of having a hobby while looking after a little baby sounds kind of insane – I know. Believe men when I say that the challenge is worth it! Finding a couple of hours to pursue a passion will be more than enough of a reward!
I order take-out.
This is so simple and saves me a lot of time and stress! Of-course, I don’t do this every night. I save it for those really tough days. Who likes to cook dinner after having a terrible day!? Definitely not me!
I dress up.
This is just my preference. I like to dress up even if I might stay home all day. It makes me feel good about myself and I feel a lot more confident in my physical body. Let’s be honest, after giving birth your body isn’t the same as it used to be and it is super important to feel confident in it. Don’t you agree?
I am a human being and the role of a mom is not always rainbows and butterflies. On those really tough days I leave my husband in control and I go hide. Sounds a little crazy but my favorite place to hide is in the bathroom. I know sounds a little weird but hey it works great when I need to take a breather.
BUILDING HABITS TAKE TIME
I am definitely not perfect at this yet. Building habits take time and I am not a happy mom 24/7. Honestly, I don’t think that’s even possible. But one thing that I do know for sure is that devoting time for ourselves will give us the opportunity to be the best that we can be.
I know I’m not the only mommy out there who tries to devote time for herself. I would love to hear some of the things you do to devote time to yourself! Feel free to comment them down below!